- Excuse me. - Yeah?
Just wondering. We're making a little documentary
Do you guys wants to be interviewed?
No, I don't think so.
A dance that has no beginning and no end.
Would you wanna talk about your relationship on camera?
Don't move.
Let the music move you.
How do you move in silence?
If you feel it, take a partner.
Have both of you been in long-term relationships
before you met?
- No. - Not really, no.
So this is like your longest relationship by far.
We've been together for almost, what...
- 10 years. - 10 years.
- 10 years? - December.
In December, it'll be 10 years.
We are so much more powerful when we are not two,
we are one.
- Yeah, I totally liked it. - Yeah?
Doesn't it feel good? Doesn't your body feel alive?
- I feel like free and open. - And light.
I was not making fun. I was just--
I was just drawing your attention to your patterns
and your habits.
- And I appreciate it. - Okay.
Wow. That long-haired guy was into you.
- He was all over you. - That's not what it's about.
but the guy I thought was gonna put his hand down your pants.
Okay, Danny, no, no.
It's not a sexual connection. It's like --
I just love those guys, how they pretend they're all spiritual,
and it's really they're trying to get ass, you know?
- I mean, it's like, come on. - That's not what's happening.
- Come on, really? - It's not.
No, it's not. It's deeper than that.
Listen, I love all this stuff. It's great. It's really great.
We're kinda pathetic as a race, you know?
- All guys? - All guys.
- Including you? - Well, I'm the one exception.
That's why I notice it when I see it in other guys.
I'm sensing a little jealous energy from you right now.
- Really? - Yeah.
- I'm just looking out for you. - Oh.
It's all right. I can handle myself.
I know you can. That's what I like about you.
Yeah.
- You know what? I... - What?
I think we should shift this energy before we go to dinner.
What do you mean?
Can I hug you right now?
Yeah. What, right here?
- All right. - All right.
Wow. That was amazing.
- Good. Feel good? - Totally. How did you do that?
Just changing the energy a little.
You're so good at that.
We all are, Danny.
I like it here.
It's beautiful. Beautiful spot.
Yeah, it's got a good feel.
Great place to come after the dance.
It is! It is a good place to come after the dance.
- It's all raw, right? - Yeah.
Or is it some? All raw.
- Is that okay? - Absolutely.
- You sure? - Love raw.
It's really nice. I can't wait.
Hi.
- Hi. - Hi, hi, hi.
Thank you.
- Hi. - Hi.
This is Danny.
- Hi, Danny. - Nice to meet you.
- This is Gayle. - Hi, Gayle,
- Is everything okay? - Yeah.
Just a moment of sadness.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- But it's passed. - That's good.
- I haven't seen you in so long! - I know!
- The moment's gone. - I know.
I know, but it's so good to see you now.
- You too. - She is so special.
We all are. We all are.
- Green smoothie? - Yes.
- Uh, what is it? - Yeah. Just say yes.
Yes, I'm saying yes to everything today.
Yes to the world.
The service here is phenomenal. It really is.
So you wanted to know about my open relationship?
If you're okay with that.
- Sure. - Yeah.
So basically how it worked is I had a primary partner,
and he had another girlfriend in L.A.,
and he would see her when he was there.
Wow. So you knew that that was going on.
- Yeah, yeah. - Wow.
It was a very open... open relationship.
Hence the name.
And were you ever seeing somebody at that time too?
Um...
I explored things a little with some people, but...
nothing really stuck.
So you didn't feel jealous or anything like that?
- No. - That's amazing.
No, no, no. She was really amazing.
She was great, and she was great for him.
So this is something like you guys would talk about.
Yeah.
because it's sort of totally what I'm looking for.
Oh, yeah?
No. I mean, not like that.
I mean, it sounds interesting to me, maybe,
but just more in terms of the film.
Like that's why I would like to interview you on camera
and have you explain your experience
with an open relationship.
If you'd be into that.
Sure, Dan.
All right. Let me try and explain this to you.
I feel like you're not getting it.
- Really? - Yeah.
- I'm trying. - I know.
It's like I'm here with you right now, right?
But I'm not totally present with you
because I feel very drawn to that person over there.
- The guy with the book? - Yeah.
- Really? - Yeah.
He's your type?
Wait. Are you being serious?
Because it's not a reality to me.
I invent some fantasy in my mind
and follow my impulse and see what's drawing me.
What, you mean you really wanna do that?
Or are you making like an example?
- Hi. - Hey.
- How are you? - I'm good.
- Good. I'm John. - Theresa.
It was nice to have met you.
Thanks, John.
What the hell was that?
So that was totally not what I thought it was gonna be.
What was it?
But now I can just, you know,
I can just let it go, and I can be here with you.
Totally and completely.
- Wow. - Right?
Actually, that might be a little too much for me at the moment.
But okay.
Hey.
- Hi. - Mmm.
- How are you? - Good.
- Are you tired? - Mm-hmm.
- Already? - Yeah.
- It's so early though. - Not that early.
- Okay. - What?
Um, do you wanna stay and just sleep?
Uh, is that my only option?
- Maybe tonight, yeah. - Tonight it is.
All right, awesome.
Let's sleep.
You're that tired?
- I am. - Oh.
Mmm!
I need to do some dreaming.
- Some dreaming? - Yeah.
All right.
- Will you turn off the light? - Yeah, I'm gonna do it.
That's good.
Well, all right then. Good night.
Blessed dreams.
Blessed dreams to you too.
Why do you torture yourself with these women, Danny?
Is it just for the film? Is it worth it?
It's about the film, but she's a nice person.
the film is just an extension of where I'm at lately.
And yeah, maybe I'm getting a little involved with her,
but it's sort of part of the work.
Right, but it's like this girl's got your brainwashed.
If she doesn't wanna have sex, then...
suddenly you don't wanna have sex.
Obviously I would like to have sex more than I do.
I think you're better than this situation.
Well, thank you. I appreciate you saying that,
but I feel more connected sometimes
when we don't have sex.
But I know what you're saying because at the same time,
there's like...
I would really like to get...
Your cock sucked?
It might be nice.
This is what I'm saying!
There comes a time when, you know,
every woman knows you gotta suck a cock!
How would you know that?
'Cause I've done it before?
You've sucked a cock.
Yeah.
When was this, and how come I didn't know about it?
My man days. You know about my man days.
No, I don't. You had man days?
- Does Emmy know about it? - Yeah.
She does? And she's cool with it?
Well, she can't do much about it.
They came before her.
That's amazing.
I mean, it doesn't surprise me.
I've seen you with men, and I've thought like,
"For a lesbian, she's very flirty with men."
No, I'm just kidding.
- I'm kidding. - I have to open the studio.
If I pull down with two hands, it's a fumble!
You should actually have a relationship
instead of making movies about them.
It's so boring!
I mean, what did Woody Allen say?
He said, "I can only live in my art, not in my life."
And I totally relate.
- What? - It's so fucked up
that you're taking life advice from Woody Allen.
I'm not taking life advice from him.
I'm just saying I relate.
I don't know. I think I just like being alone.
You gotta stop saying that, dude.
- Why? It's true. - I know it's true,
but when you say that to girls when they first meet you,
they think you're a weirdo.
- I am a weirdo. - No, you're not.
You're not a weirdo because you like to be alone
some of the time.
That's totally natural.
Everybody feels like that.
I just like being in my day, you know?
- That's great. - Is it great?
how could it be any better than this right now?
We got music, it's two degrees outside,
we're having coffee.
I mean, getting laid would be nice every once in a while.
Totally. How long has it been?
I'd rather not say.
Oh, my God.
- What? - Oh, my God.
How many weeks? It's been months!
- Will you stop? - How many months?
Maybe-- I don't know. I don't have a sex calendar
where I mark off the days.
It was definitely warmer the last time I had sex.
- Oh, my God. - It's not that big a deal.
You remember it's like some distant season.
In spring. There were buds on the tree.
Will you have sex with my friend?
Ow.
You are so in love with him.
Shut up.
I'm not in love with him, I just love him.
There is a distinction.
You know, he's sweet and charming,
and I just wanna see him with a nice girl, that's all.
Maybe he doesn't want a nice girl.
Oh, come on. Of course he does.
Who doesn't want a nice girl?
I don't know.
Maybe he likes being alone.
That's what he says, but...
I don't know. I don't buy it.
Why not?
I love that he doesn't need to be with someone all the time.
I'm not saying he needs to be with someone all the time.
Just, you know, some of time.
I mean, I've never seen him with anyone except these...
creepy new-age girls who torture him.
I mean, you would not believe some of things
he's told me these girls say and do,
in the name of going with the flow.
It sucks.
I know.
Yeah?
Hmm?
You know? What do you know?
What do you mean?
Oh, my God, I caught you!
Em, I know when you're not listening to me.
I'm sorry.
- Unbelievable. - I'm sorry!
I'm distracted.
You know that work is crazy right now.
So why don't you close your computer and hang out with me?
I will in a second.
Let me just do this one thing, okay?
I'm meeting with the election committee woman tomorrow.
- Okay. - What?
Nothing.
What are you doing?
- Nothing. - Mm-hmm.
I thought you were making us dinner.
It's cookin', good-lookin'.
- So tell me this. - Mm-hmm.
Can your election committee woman do this?
Stop that. That's disgusting.
Oh, come on.
- Do not be mad at me. - I'm not mad.
I'm very, very sorry.
You did stick your tongue in my ear.
It's kinda wet and gross.
No. You know what? I'm not into it anymore.
Yes, you are. You're always into it, you little nymph.
- Fuck off. - Sweetie...
I'm sorry if I'm attracted to my girlfriend.
I was kidding.
Come on, I was kidding.
Huh?
- Huh? - You always do this!
- What? - No, you know what?
If I have to explain it, just forget it.
Come on.
Don't be such a little baby, huh?
- Can't take a joke suddenly. - Fuck you.
Why aren't you ticklish? It's so unfair.
Oh, fuck off. I'm going.
I'll make you your dinner, madam!
One of these nights, you're cooking.
In your dreams, sweet cakes.
Oh, my God.
Why do I have to be the mom?
Uh, I think I burnt this.
Well, it doesn't make a lot of sense
because I have a really close friendship--
Hey, did you finish the behind-the-scenes?
Oh, that was the airline thing.
No, before that. What is that you're working on?
It was nothing.
- No. - Everybody does it. Show me.
- Really? - Please. I'm bored.
- What is it? - It's nothing.
It's this doc that I've been working on for years.
It's going to be a cure for boredom,
but if you really wanna see it, uh, here.
What's it about?
It's about uh, you know, people's lives
and relationships and-- Here.
I started like-- I don't--
I-- First of all...
I did the camera shake intentionally.
Yeah, it looks like a battle scene or something.
...to avoid it.
Back-lit. It's supposed to look bad.
So is she, is she like mentally ill?
No, she's not mentally ill.
She's just talking about her relationship history.
Romantic relationships.
Or other kinds. If they don't have romantic relationships,
then how they, you know,
subvert that emotion in other ways
and, you know, just connection, basically.
Highbrow.
Sort of, but I don't know where it's going right now.
I'm just trying to find the heart of the doc.
Hey, there he is. Zack, what's up?
done by the end of the day, right?
Yeah, I was just, uh, I put that in the bin for you.
Is this still H.264?
- Oh, we're great. - Yeah.
- Yeah, no problem. - You got it.
Did you start this?
No, not at all.
- All right, uh... - You got it?
Yeah, I'm on it.
All right. okay. Thanks, man.
Oh, hey, speaking of relationships.
You still with that hot freaky chick?
- Oh, Theresa? - Yeah.
She is hot. Not that freaky though.
She's into that like new-agey stuff.
I mean, with her? I don't know.
because she's into open relationships,
so it's a little weird.
- It's perfect. - Really?
Dude, don't fuck it up by asking questions.
You're probably right.
Seriously, yeah.
- All right, man. - I'll see ya.
...relationship rather than just being myself, so...
I'm uncomfortable, and I want out.
What?
All right, Mr. Cameraman, what do you wanna know?
Give me some good stories about open relationships.
Um, okay.
Um, my primary partner had his L.A. girlfriend
come in to town once,
and I was going to New Jersey to stay with my parents,
and I spent the whole day cleaning and getting ready,
and I bought flowers.
Oh, my God.
Yeah, I just wanted it to be perfect for them.
- Really? - Yeah.
That seems so amazing to me that you can just like--
So you don't have jealousy at all, ever?
- No. - Come on.
No, we're all on our own paths, you know?
Everybody's got...
their own needs.
But do you even have the feeling, and then you say, like,
"I'm not going to go with this feeling,"
or do you just not even have the feeling of jealousy?
Um...
The only feeling I have is like, "Oh, I really wish..."
If I suddenly wish that he was there, but he's not there.
Mm-hmm.
But that's, you know, that's my own shit.
That's your own shit?
My teabag says, "You are unlimited."
You are unlimited. What does mine say?
Trust creates peace.
- Oh, see? - That's appropriate.
Can we put the camera away now?
I know, but sometimes I just wanna be here.
Okay.
Just the two of us.
Without a camera between us.
- That sounds good. - Yeah.
- Good breath. - I know.
- I'm getting better at this. - You are.
It's so interesting to do this, isn't it?
It's good. Feels good.
Yeah, 'cause it's funny, the first few times we did it,
it's like, the eye contact always seems to be like,
we should either make out or cry or you know...
- Yeah. - But...
- You don't have to talk. - You don't have to do it.
- I should shut up now. - You don't have to qualify it.
See? So much better.
Totally.
We'll take it to the next level.
All right.
That's good.
- That's nice. - Yeah?
- That's good. - Wow.
- Feel good? - That's amazing.
Yeah, that's like third-eye to third-eye, you know?
It's like kind of an inner seeing.
- Do you wanna, um-- - I like it.
Do you wanna trade massages right now?
I would love that. You mean like right here?
- No, let's go upstairs. - Okay.
- Should we bring our tea? - Bring your tea.
Trust is peace.
Oh, that feels good.
- Really? - Oh, my God.
Yeah, you got some tension going on.
- Whew! - Wow.
Too much?
- It's a lot. - It's a lot?
It's a lot, but in a good way.
Oh, my goodness.
- Yeah, you need that. - Ooh!
This shirt is kinda getting in the way here.
Do you wanna take it off and then we can use the oil?
All right, sure. Yeah, let's do that.
Let's see, this looks like good...
- massage oil. - See where the oil is?
Yeah, it's pretty handy here.
You must get massages a lot.
Well, sometimes, when I'm lucky.
It's a nice thing to do.
All right, here we go.
This'll be nice.
- Do these go up? - Mm-hmm.
I need more oil for this.
- It's a very kissable back. - Oh, okay.
- It's just part of the massage. - Oh, okay.
It's a very...
special technique I have.
I see. Uh...
- Danny. - What?
- I... - What?
- I think maybe we should stop. - What do you mean?
This is just getting going.
Yeah, I just, I'm not really...
- I think we should stop. - What? Really?
Yeah, yeah, I just, um...
I just don't wanna be sexual right now.
- Oh, no, I don't either. - Okay, good.
It just doesn't-- Hate isn't what wants to happen.
Oh, okay, sorry.
I just get a little excited because you're so beautiful.
Oh, that's so nice. That's so nice.
Okay, so much love, so much love.
Yeah.
Mmm!
- This is nice. - Yeah.
Although, it still does feel slightly sexual,
I understand, I understand.
Just gonna help myself out here where I can.
See? There we go.
Perfect. That looks great.
- Now can I hug you? - Absolutely,
- Now it's like we're cousins. - Okay.
Mmm.
Yeah, this is great. I don't feel anything.
Well, um, we were--
should I look at you or should I look at your thing?
Into the lens or at your face?
- No, you can look at me. - Okay.
- Um, I was into her for a--
a long time, a while.
- She was? - Did I talk during your turn?
- Um, yeah, you did. - Oh, my God.
I'm so excited that there is documentation of this
because we can actually rewind.
First of all, you did talk through my whole turn.
And second of all, it doesn't actually matter
'cause technically there are no turns.
That's good. I like the bickering too.
- .Keep that going. - Oh, great.
So, um, she was going out with a guy.
- A man person. - A man person.
And so I didn't even know if it was a possibility.
- And she was dating a shrew. - That is not true.
- She was-- - Oh, my God, she was awful.
She was this controlling psychopath
who literally never laughed.
She did laugh.
She laughed all the time in private.
You don't think that's weird?
- A little bit. - You're not allowed to ask him.
She's a private laugher.
She can't ask you for validation.
Um... You are so mean.
when your partner's last person was such a square
because it's so easy to please them.
All I have to do is laugh over brunch,
and you feel like I'm the most delightful woman
you ever dated.
Um, oh, my God.
You're such a bitch.
Do you have any fistfights?
'Cause I feel like we could do a cat fight for you.
That's nice, but let's go back to Carla and her man.
Oh, God, do we actually have to?
And had you dated men before, Carla?
- You know this. - I know it, yeah,
but we're talking to the rest of the film audience here.
All right, sorry. Um...
- Yeah, let's hear it. - Shut up.
What's the other story?
So I wasn't that comfortable with it,
and I, uh...
and I wasn't out.
So I was dating Brad and experimenting with women.
And Brad knew about this experimentation?
No, no.
- Oh, really? - Yeah.
And Emmy was friends with his sister.
Oh. Was that weird?
This is good stuff. This is really good.
Yeah, well, you know, it was a long time ago, so...
That's it. We don't have to talk about Brad anymore
'cause this has really gone down a different turn here.
No, I-- She's right.
It's probably-- I just feel bad about it.
Okay, we don't have to talk about him anymore.
It's fine.
So because she was dating Brad,
I didn't know if it was a possibility.
Back to me.
Take it back to you.
But then I found out about all this experimenting.
And that was it?
And that was it.
And the buck stopped there.
Let's hope.
So far.
- We can cut it now. - Okay.
- Why? - You are not talking to Brad.
I have to talk to him.
The subject reveals where the story goes.
Didn't you see Hoop Dreams?
No, really. You can't talk to him.
- Why not? - Because he was traumatized.
Seriously, he's my only ex that I don't talk to anymore,
and it ruined the relationship between Emmy and his sister.
I'm gonna be totally sensitive to that.
It's a really bad idea, dude.
It's not. No, it's a good idea.
This documentary is gonna bring everyone back together.
- Oh, my God. - And it's gonna be great.
You guys are gonna go to the premiere.
- I'm serious, Danny. - I'm serious too.
Actually, do you wanna become the center of this film?
You know, it's so sweet of you to ask me that
because I've been wanting to say to you that,
"Yes, I want to be the center of your film!"
Oh, my God. You're fucking with me, right?
- No. - This is not okay.
Holy shit.
- That's Rosie. - Wow.
She just ate that pigeon over there in the grass.
Yeah, rubbed one out.
Bobby and Violet were there years ago,
and then Violet died and this one moved in.
Bobby and Rosie, they live together in the white building,
or that red building over there, those two windows.
Her and Bobby met right up there on top of the building up there.
But Bobby had his choice.
because he watched her catch it right here in the grass.
And she was messed up. She died.
- She ended up dying. - Oh, man.
But then she moved in. She just took off.
Where did she go?
- I lost her. - I know.
Where'd she go? Did you see her?
Um, so, well,
I was into her for a while.
Hey, Aunt Lily, how are you?
- Good! How are you? - Good.
Good! Were you at the church? I didn't see you there.
No, I just came right from work, so I missed the church part.
That's too bad. It was wonderful.
- Carol was so beautiful. - Was she really?
- Would you like something? - I'm good. I'll see you later.
- Good to see you. - Yeah, you too.
- Hello, hello! - Danny!
How you doin', Aunt Jules?
- Nice to see you, Trevor. - Danny.
- Nice to see everybody. - How was work?
It was good. I'm sorry I came right from work.
- I missed the church. - That's okay,
We're just glad you're here.
Aunt Lily said it was beautiful though, yeah?
- It was somethin'. - Not a dry eye in the house.
Nice.
Really?
Go say hi to Carol.
Oh, she looks busy, I'll get her later.
You know, she brought a whole lot of cute, single friends.
Okay, Aunt Jules, thank you very much.
There are a lot of cute, single girls here.
Trevor's noticed them.
Good observation. I'm taken.
- Right, honey? - Yes.
And you're too old for any of them
to be interested in you anyway.
Oh, so I'm monogamous by default.
By default, yeah. You never know though.
Sometimes they go for the older guys, Mom.
You'd better be careful.
Danny, what are you editing now?
Oh, I mean, just dumb shit.
Commercials mostly, but now I'm starting to get more films.
My cousin was an orderly on General Hospital.
Oh, really, that's exactly the same thing as a film editor.
- What do you do? - Uh, I, um...
Investment counseling.
- She had to tell you that? - No, no, I do.
I counsel people on their investments.
Yeah, that's great, man. You like it?
No, but I make a shitload of money.
Well, there you go.
That's a good thing, I guess.
You just got a husband here to dance with.
I gotta get the ol' ball and chain off my back.
Already? Come on. That was quick.
Have fun.
We'll dance together.
You haven't always tried new things.
- I'm trying it, believe me. - Awesome.
You don't think of me here anymore though.
I know you don't. You forget all about me.
That's not true at all.
You were always my favorite cousin.
- We just never see you anymore. - No, I know.
It's true, it's true. I've sort of like cut off
because you're the only one I can talk to.
The rest of these people here I don't feel comfortable with.
Well, I mean, you never give people a chance.
That's true, I don't, but you know what it is?
It's like I feel like everyone's just trying to figure me out,
put me in a box or something.
Yeah. You know my friend Suze was asking about you tonight.
- Oh, Suze. - She wanted to see you.
- Really? - Yeah.
You can just enjoy your day, you know what I mean?
This is ridiculous!
He's just unconventional when it comes to relationships.
That sounds like code for gay.
What, Danny?
Are you kidding? No way.
That guy gets all the tail he wants. I've seen.
What have you seen?
Well, like with that hippie-dippie girl we met.
Oh, Theresa.
Exactly. What kind of straight man has women friends?
Why when someone shows up solo
that everybody thinks gay?
I mean, if he was gay, wouldn't he bring a guy?
Not if he was in the closet.
Oh, why are you so concerned?
- Hey, Charlie, how you doin'? - Good. How you doin'?
All right, I will. I'll be over in a second.
- Okay. - Yeah.
No, no, no, no. I don't think you're gay.
Yeah.
because they've never seen you with women.
Right, because if you're alone, that's not an option. I get it.
I was alone for a long time before I met your mother,
and I loved it,
but then I met her and...
it was like, I really dug hanging with her.
Yeah.
Yeah, she's a good lady.
Yeah, yeah, she is.
But you know, once you get older,
the body and the sex and all that,
it becomes less.
I used to be really into like tight bodies
with pow-wow curves.
but she has more of a roly-poly kind of beautiful, you know?
Right.
Not to say that...
not to say that the sex is not fucking fantastic.
- Okay. - Yeah, no, I'm sorry.
That's probably not very appropriate.
No, no, that's fine.
It is great to be outside.
Yeah, it's a beautiful night.
No, no, man.
I mean outside of convention.
You know?
- I don't know.
What?
What? What?
This fucking suit, man!
- It's fucking terrible! - Really?
No, no, no! But it's beautiful.
It is beautifully terrible.
It says, "I couldn't bother being conforming to you,
you conforming automatons."
- No, it's noble, man. - Really?
Yes. It's noble.
It's like...
fucking nobility from a time gone by.
Don't ever stop.
Wow. I don't think I can.
Like Rilke says, "You build your life
in accordance with that necessity."
What's your necessity?
I don't think I have one.
Oh, come on! Come on, come on, man!
- What's your necessity? - I don't know.
I never really--
Okay, like my necessity is to...
do nothing.
Like I wake up in the morning
and just let the day unfold.
That's beautiful, man. I fucking love that.
See once you find your necessity,
it's all gravy from there on out.
Carla, where are you right now?
Why is your phone off, first of all?
Second of all, I'm so high right now.
I'm still at the wedding, and my family is insane.
I just got high with my mom's boyfriend.
You know what he told me?
He told me that sex with my mom is still fantastic.
So I've got that image in my head for the rest of my life.
I so wanna talk to you right now.
I just feel like I'm at that perfect high place,
and I just need to talk to you.
I love talking to you high.
It's one of my favorite things to do.
I need you right now. Where are you?
God!
Call me back as soon as you get this.
Before you get this, call me back.
All right, love you, bye.
- Uncle Bob, you takin' off? - Yeah.
- Good to see you. - Good to see you.
When are we gonna see you getting married?
Me? Oh, I don't know. I'm too young.
You better hurry up. You don't wanna end up like me.
Oh, come on! That wouldn't so bad.
You think?
- Have a good night. - You too.
- Hey.
- What happened?
I don't know. I have no idea, Danny.
I mean, is she seeing somebody else or what is it?
She wouldn't say.
Oh, God.
It's impossible.
I really-- I don't know how anybody does it.
Well, you're asking the wrong guy.
You are so lucky you don't have to deal with this shit.
No. I don't know about that.
Do you have any weed?
I think I might have some weed.
Look at who you're talking to right now.
- Can I have some? - Do you want some?
- Yeah, I want weed. - I'm getting you weed.
Gonna make it all better.
I want wine and weed.
I'll do what I can here. I don't know how much...
I don't know how much weed and wine we have,
but I'll do my best.
- Pills. - Pills? Heroin?
- Heroin. - All right.
So let's start you off with weed.
I'm gonna get you wine. How is cheap red wine for you?
It's fine.
This is really good weed. Where'd you get it?
I got it from my tai chi instructor.
Oh, my God.
You have a tai chi instructor?
- You don't?
Oh, my God, what are you?
Like an 85-year-old Asian man?
I am, in the body of--
You're very well maintained.
You never know what it's like inside the relationship
That's so true.
Well, it was fun. It used to be fun.
How long has it not been fun for?
I don't know.
Are you okay?
Hey.
Hey, come here.
You're gonna be okay.
Really?
Really.
How do you know?
I can feel it.
I know these things.
I do.
You know what we're gonna do? We're gonna go for a walk.
You're gonna be fine. Come on. I have a good plan for us.
- You do? - Yeah.
- Can you do it? - Yeah, I can do it.
- Can you see? - It's a meadow!
- What is it? - It's a whole meadow!
- Are we in the right space? - Yeah. Straight.
What street is this?
Suffolk.
We're not there yet. We're almost there.
- What is your name? - I'm Megan.
- Hey, I'm Danny. - Hi, Danny, nice to meet you.
- This is Carla. - Hi, how are you?
- Yeah, good. How are you doing? - Good. It's good.
Tequila?
- Where are you from? - I'm from Ireland, from Dublin.
- Do you like it? - I love it here.
- Do you live in the city? - Well, I don't know now.
I'm sort of homeless as of tonight.
- You gotta drown your sorrows. - Yeah!
She's like an Irish Brigette Bardot.
- You should have one more shot. - Really? You think?
Have you got to work tomorrow?
How can you say no to that accent?
No, I can't say no to that accent.
Here's to New York. Come on.
It's a good tequila. I wouldn't give you bad tequila.
I already can't feel my teeth.
You got the basic stuff.
You haven't met that guy or that girl, right?
Yeah, exactly. I haven't met that person.
You never know. You come into a bar and meet a guy or girl.
Completely depends.
And that's a good way to be because you double your odds.
No, I've never dated a customer.
- Thanks for answering that.
I'm not doing a number slide. I'm just asking!
I'm gonna get a number slide!
I want you to be happy. This is your night.
I don't even know what's going on with her.
and she wouldn't tell me if she was with someone else.
When you ask someone, "Are you with someone,
"are you seeing someone else, have you met someone else?"
and they don't answer that question...
Right, but I mean, you don't ask that question unless like--
- What did you-- What? - Let's stop talking about it.
But she's also-- Where are you going?
I dropped my napkin, you fucking pervert!
- This is your life, right? - No, I know.
Do you want something that's extraordinary
Or something that's like...
- No, I want that. - Yeah, exactly.
- Sorry, if I spat on you. - No, I just wanna hug you.
I just wanna hug you.
- She's doing her thing. - What are you saying?
- Then you go like this. - I don't need the criticism.
We should really...
We should go?
But I tried to get that out of her.
Did you see how I tried to get that out of her?
- Yeah. - Did you try?
I feel like there's a level that we're so close,
and we're like really good friends,
but I get to a certain level, and then it's like,
boom, door goes up.
Like, it's like "That's as far as you get."
- You wanna get a bit further. - No, no, no!
You joke about it and you make jokes,
but like I really feel that sometimes.
I'm just being honest. I'm just being honest.
You know, you can trust me.
Like I don't know why you feel like you can't trust me.
Why are you taking all the drinks?
It's like you get it, like you fucking get it,
and you don't even know that you get it.
Like you're just like so cool,
and you're a fucking great woman,
and you seek these relationships where if you're not appreciated,
No, I was crazy in college.
and I would fuck these women that I had no connection to.
Oh, my God, that's so unusual!
Wait, in college, you got really drunk all the time
- and fucked women? - Isn't that crazy?
So you were that one that did that in college.
- You were the one guy... - That did that.
No, I'm not saying I was a one guy.
I'm just trying to make a point.
I'm saying that I did that
with these girls that I would be attracted to,
but then I also had these really good girlfriends
that we would stay up all night
and talk and bond and everything,
but I would never even think about sleeping with those girls.
It was like I wanted to keep those two things separate.
Right, right, but did those chicks,
the ones that would stay up braiding your hair every night--
- You are such a bitch. - Did they wanna have--
Did they wanna have sex with you?
No, because I had braided hair at that point.
Why would they wanna have sex with me?
No, that was not part of our thing.
They totally wanted to have sex with you.
And they were like, "When is he going to make a move?
How long do I have to talk about feelings with this fucking guy?"
Really? They were waiting for me to make a move?
I hope they weren't. I thought we were bonding.
You couldn't handle the intimacy
like full-on altogether.
You could either have sexual intimacy,
which wasn't really intimacy; it was just banging.
- It was banging. - Or intimacy without the sex.
You weren't ready for the whole shebang.
I get it. You're really not there even now.
That's what I'm saying.
I have not made that much progress.
Did she call?
I have not looked at my phone.
Good. Don't.
Yeah.
I don't want to.
Thank you so much for tonight.
Of course, it was fun. I had a good time.
Do you have everything you need?
- Glass of water, anything? - No. I'm good.
- Where are you going? - I'm going to sleep.
- Where? - On the couch.
You should get in here with me.
There's plenty of room. Look.
No, it's all right.
- What's your problem? - Couch is comfortable
I don't know. You wanna share the bed?
This is stupid. It'll be fun.
I don't wanna sleep alone.
All right. I'm good with it.
I can't really sleep in these, but...
- Can you turn around? - Are you kidding me?
so I just feel a little awkward, and I don't like these boxers.
But I've seen you in swimming trunks before.
But I don't like these boxers.
Just...
turn around for two seconds!
This is ridiculous.
Oh, just shut the fuck up and turn around.
- One. - Wait a second.
- Two. - No, no, I meant...
Two and a half. I saw your boxers!
They're horrible, aren't they?
- No, I didn't see them. - I have no idea.
You're shy, huh?
I'm a little shy.
We've never been in bed together.
- It's the first time. - Oh, my God!
Is this what you do usually in bed?
Face the person and talk to them?
Yeah. Can we kill the lamp?
- Do you mind? - Not at all.
- Sorry. I gotta reach over you. - So fuckin' rude.
I can't believe I just did that.
Are you tired?
I'm a little tired, but...
You wanna talk at all? I'm not tired at all.
A little chitchat? Yeah, you seem wired up.
What's up with Theresa?
I don't know. I'm not really talking to her right now.
Huh? Why?
Just haven't.
Not into her anymore?
No, I'm into her, I mean...
I don't know.
I guess I'm into her. I don't know.
I guess I was kind of like into her in a way
unconventional relationship thing.
Like the open relationship thing seems interesting to me.
Yeah, because you're a weirdo.
Is that really weird?
I thought it was progressive and open minded.
Uh-huh.
I just feel like there's gotta be something else
that doesn't feel so oppressive,
like I'm totally losing my freedom
and any sense of identity I have.
Yeah, but relationships don't have to be oppressive.
Like it can be what you want it to be,
you know, like with me and Emmy.
Okay, that's not the best example right now,
but still, you make it what you want it to be,
what suits you and your partner, do you know what I mean?
You know, if you're starting to feel,
if you actually take it that far,
you can actually just say to that person,
"Hey, you know, I need a little space here."
I just feel like you never let it get to that point.
- You know? - No, you're right.
You decide that it's gonna be oppressive
before you've even tried it out.
And I guess I haven't really been in a situation lately
where I thought that, you know,
the person was worth like making the sacrifices for.
Yeah.
Yeah, it's rare.
I don't know.
I'm kinda getting tired.
You wanna go to sleep?
Yeah. I'm kinda fading.
Okay.
I'll see you in the morning then.
Thank you for tonight.
Of course.
It's fun here.
Nice to have you.
It feels like there's a blanket folded up
inside the pillowcase.
Man pillows.
What? No.
No, I'm not doing this right now.
He's on the couch. I'm in the bed.
What?
Yeah.
You too.
You okay?
Yeah, I'm fine.
What'd she say?
I don't wanna talk about it.
Why are you being so nice to me?
What do you mean, why am I being so nice to you?
I care about you, that's why.
Don't be sorry. Don't be sorry.
It's okay.
Ready.
Ohh.
Step.
Chi.
Ahh.
Chi.
Ohh.
Chi.
Around.
Hold.
Chi.
Half step.
Ahh.
Chi.
Ahh.
Haven't seen you in class in a while.
What?
I'm starting to think the only reason you come to class
is when you need some weed.
I come for the practice. The weed is the added bonus.
You know that.
Namaste, my friend.
- I'll see ya next week. - All right.
Because, Mom, I have like 80 cousins.
They all eventually get married. I'm not going to every wedding.
I'm doing her a favor.
She only invited me out of obligation.
You know how expensive it is per person?
They're gonna be psyched that I don't go.
Because!
All right, Mom, listen, my ear is killing me from the phone.
I do have a hands-free device. I just didn't bring it with me.
I'm going! I have to go. I love you too.
Okay, okay, I'm hanging up now.
All right, I gotta go.
All right, I'll see you.
Oh, my God, Em! How are you?
- Good. How are you? - Good to see you!
How have you been? Where have you been?
I'm sorry, I'm sorry. It's just been crazy.
She's good, yeah. What's up with that?
- What are you talking about? - I don't know, a fight?
Oh, no, no, no. I've just been crazy.
How's the documentary? Are we going to Sundance?
It's kind of my forever project, you know.
Don't wait too long. Sorry.
Okay, I better go, but you're gonna vote tomorrow, right?
Only for you because I usually come out for the big ones.
- They're all the big ones! - I know, I know!
Vote on the Working Families Party.
- I will, whatever that means. - Okay.
I gotta go. And come to our night.
We're gonna be at the Soho House on Crosby.
- Okay, I'll try, yeah. - Hopefully a celebration,
- Carla wants to see you. - Okay. Tell her I said hi.
- Okay, bye. - All right.
Hey. Hey, it's me.
Hello!
Oh, my God, I'm so glad to be...
Hi.
...here with all you guys.
- What's happening? - You guys know each other?
Yes. Yeah, how are you?
- From dance class. - Oh, yeah.
- Yeah, how's it going? - Good, good.
What are you kids up to?
- Just being. - Yeah.
Just being. Nice. That's nice.
It is nice.
It feels you guys are just being in here.
- We missed you at class today. - Oh, yeah, yeah.
- 'Cause I couldn't make it. - It was amazing.
Yeah, it always is with this guy. He's awesome.
I love your class.
This is really great. You guys should know each other
Yeah, I feel like there's a good thing, yeah.
- All good. - It's all good.
It's all love.
It is?
Sit, Danny, sit.
Oh, no, I was just on my way around the block,
and I thought of you,
and I didn't know this was happening,
so you guys should just do your thing.
- It's not our thing. - No.
It's our thing.
- Yeah, you're included. - I'm included?
- You are. - Sure.
That's so nice.
What am I included in, exactly?
- Not sure what's going on. - In the love.
I don't know if I'm in the same vibe as you guys, though.
- That's okay. - Well, get into it.
Come on, sit down.
No, I really don't wanna sit right now.
I'm kinda amped up, so--
You don't have to do the whole alpha dog thing here.
It's not like I'm gonna steal her away from you.
She's not mine to steal. We're just friends.
I just have some stuff going on.
I'm good, I'm good.
- Hey. - What?
Can I just hug you?
I really don't want a hug right now, all right?
- Okay. - Sorry.
Maybe we'll talk later or something, but you know...
Have a good day, dude.
Okay, take it easy, guy.
Take it easy, guy.
That's awesome. This guy's awesome.
- He is awesome. - He is, yeah.
Is this like for real?
Or is this just like an act you put on or like...
What's going on?
I don't really understand the question.
you got your shirt off in November, like, all love,
is that really who you are?
What's happening?
No. Don't put a shirt on. Just be whoever you are.
Do you really believe all that shit, man?
Like the shit you teach and all that, you know.
It's not a matter of belief.
It's a matter of knowing.
I hear you, and you're right. Your truth is not my truth.
Totally, yeah, thank God.
I'm gonna go, I'm gonna go.
Don't. Nothing's happening,
We had an amazing class,
and then Jarrod wanted to borrow a book,
so that's all that's going on.
That's nice, yeah. What book?
- Good book? - Yeah.
- He looks like a big reader. - What's up?
Nothing's up! I just thought we were gonna hang out like--
and you don't have to explain yourself to me.
I didn't realize what I was coming into.
and I want you to be able to let that go.
No, I just wanna let you guys just be
'cause that's what you're doing.
Hang on, take a step back.
Look at this fucking guy.
I think we should just ask ourselves
What do you mean, what's really happening?
You want me to tell you what's really happening?
- Yeah. - You're here,
you got the no shirt on in November,
she's a fuckin' beautiful woman, and you wanna fuck her,
but you're using the spiritual thing as like --
- Hey, hey. - No, I'm just saying.
He said he wants to be real like I'm being real.
But you're not gonna admit that.
You're gonna say, "It's all love,
and it's about the connection, man."
Okay, look, you don't know me, man.
Sex is one emotion on a much larger compass.
Do you have like spiritual Tourette's or something?
What are these platitudes?
I'm gonna go. This is so weird.
I feel like really weird right now.
- Don't go like this, Danny. - We'll talk later.
You should have told me you had shit going on.
- No, no, no. - Danny, whoa, whoa, whoa.
Don't walk out with this, this anger on you.
Can you just adjust your expectation and be with us?
I feel like I'm doing that all the time when I'm with you.
that we were gonna just have a one-on-one thing,
and there's sometimes always a party here,
and I just wasn't ready for it, you know what I mean?
Okay.
And I love who you are,
and I want you to be who you are,
but it's just hard for me sometimes
'cause I wanna have you in a way that I know I can't have you.
But you're great, and I'm grateful for you.
So I just need to go right now.
- Okay. - All right?
All right.
- Bye. - Bye.
Be well.
Do you ever have times
where you do feel jealous or angry?
Yeah, I feel those things,
but I know that they're not real
and that you...
They're just, they're just ego,
and you have to...
breathe and come back to yourself.
Oh, I'll be right back.
If you were smart, you'd use Grand Marnier.
- Hi! - How are you?
- Good. How are you? - Good to see you.
Thank you. Come meet these guys.
This is Danny.
I want to introduce you to Danny.
Oh, good to see you! What's going on?
Nice to see you. Congratulations.
We're just discussing really important political matters here
like how to make a good margarita.
That's important.
That's how we're gonna win this thing!
Guys, I'm gonna check in with you later.
I'm gonna show this gentleman around.
Of course.
Good to meet you guys. Nice to meet you.
All right. Have a good time.
Yeah. That guy's a real asshole.
Sit over there. I'll come find you guys later.
- Oh, right. - His way.
No, that's all it comes from.
What are you doing here? You wanna sit down?
It's good to see you. How are you?
I'm gonna take my coat off, all right?
Can I have a sip of your beer?
Yeah, of course.
How you doin'?
Good.
It's been a while.
Are you drunk?
I miss you, Danny.
It's so good of you to come.
I mean not yeah. You know what I mean.
Shut up!
No, no, I'm not drunk.
It's a good party.
It is!
It's a dumb party, but it's fun.
- Oh, my God. - What?
I love this fucking song. Will you dance?
You're gonna dance with me.
You're gonna dance with me right now!
I just got here. Let me have a little drink.
Okay. Drink that in the next five seconds.
I don't wanna dance just yet. We have to dance right now?
Yes, come on.
All right, fine.
It's all about grass roots.
And tonight you saw that.
'Cause it's all about people,
it's all about every one of you,
Democrats, Republicans, inclusive.
Hey.
What're you doin' in here all alone?
That's how I like it, I guess.
Too bad.
I wanna come bug you.
- I thought you'd left. - Nope.
- It's good to see you. - You too.
It's weird. I feel like nobody sees me like you do.
It's true. I just think these last couple months,
like I've just felt like...
invisible or somethin' from not seeing you.
I know.
Me too.
So what happened?
What do you mean?
Like after that night.
- Oh, that. - Yeah.
Sorry. I don't mean to make you uncomfortable.
No, no, I wanna--
I just can't be fake with you, you know?
It's just impossible.
I know.
I don't know what happened, Danny.
I guess I just...
freaked out.
You freaked out? Wow. The tables turned.
I don't know. I didn't wanna lose you and...
I just couldn't deal.
Welcome to my world.
Yeah, I guess we both couldn't deal.
Yeah. I've been not dealing my entire life.
I'm so tired of it. I just wanna deal for once.
See how the other half lives, you know?
What?
What's goin' on?
I don't know. It's dumb.
Well, you do too. I'm just not saying it.
Like you want me to really say it?
I don't know. I don't know what you're talking about.
I wanna kiss you right now, okay? That's the truth.
And I feel like that's all I ever do
is like I have to pretend that I don't wanna kiss you
every time I'm with you.
And I get to like hang out with you and Emmy
and have dinner and come party here,
and it's just-- I'm just tired of it.
I like you, you know? And I like being around you.
I'm just waiting, you know, for them to leave
so I can be alone again,
and I never feel that with you.
Shut up.
No.
I love you like this.
You do?
- Danny, Danny, stop. - What?
- We can't. - Yes, we can.
- No, we can't. - Why not?
There are people involved. What are you doing?
- I'm trying to shut you up.
- Danny. - What?
What?
Danny.
- What? - Danny, don't do this.
What? This is me dealing.
You're happy.
That's not what you were that night with me, that's for sure.
Look, we were-- Emmy and I were fighting,
I was upset. You can't just use that.
I felt it, okay? And I felt it from you.
Tell me you're happy.
Fuck you! Who do you think you are?
I'm not gonna prove myself to you, okay?
Tell me you love her.
Hi, you guys!
Hey!
Whoa.
- What's goin' on here? - What are you talking about?
- Am I interrupting, huh? - Don't be ridiculous.
I gotta go, actually, but this was a great night.
- Oh, my God. - I had a great time.
Wait a minute. You stay here for a second.
You guys do me a favor. I just want you to make out.
Because this weird sexual tension between you guys
is driving me insane.
And if you just make out once,
you'll see that there's nothing to it,
and it'll be gone.
- Uh, no. - Yeah. Please?
- No. For me. - No thanks.
Come on, one little kiss.
I don't think she's gonna leave us alone.
Come on, it's my big night.
We'll just give her one little kiss.
- That's all she wants, right? - There you go.
That's it. That's fine, right?
See? Nothing. She's right.
I gotta go. I'll see you. Have a--
Congratulations again.
What the fuck was that?
What the hell's going on?
I'm not bullying you! I'm asking you a question!
Okay, so I don't get to ask you any questions,
even though you were crying and you were back here
instead of being out there with me on my big night.
You didn't even know I was gone.
Oh, give me a break.
Now you're gonna be a crybaby,
that I wasn't paying enough attention to you?
Do you know what I've been doing all night?
- Come here. - I'm gonna go.
- Oh, come on. - No, no.
Oh, come on!
Carla.
Come on!
- Come on, Carla. - Let go.
Yeah, I'm gonna go. You stay. You enjoy this.
No, I'm not gonna stay. You're just gonna leave like...
What is going on?
I don't know what else to say to you.
I'm done.
We all have impulses and feelings,
but you can't act on it just whenever you feel it.
I always feel kinda like invisible in the world.
Do you want something that's extraordinary
or something that's like
Right, 'cause being alone's not even an option.
That sounds excruciating.
Just stick with us.
Stick with us.
- Did you pack the charger? - The charger?
- The charger. - Phone charger?
- Yes. - I don't have a charger.
- You had the charger. - What do you mean?
You said you were going to pack it!
No, you said you were.
Grace, stay away from the railing.
I said I was gonna pack the charger?
Oh, I'm the charger man. I see.
What's goin' on?
Nothing.
Wanna hear something?
What?
I'm a dancer.
You're a dancer?
Yeah.
What kinda dancer are you?
Jump, jump.
- Wow. That's pretty good. - Twirl.
Oh, she's just teaching me a little dance move.
Shh! Don't pay attention to them.
- Are those your parents? - No.
No, 'cause they're not dancers like us.
They're not dancers like us?
How do you know I can dance? I'm not that good.
- Really? - Mm-hmm.
Because you are. I know that.
- You know it? - Yeah.
Oh.
What? Ready? Here I go.
Twirl.
Jump, jump and up.
I told you a hundred times to pack the charger!
Now you twirl me.
I am not responsible for the charger.
It's gonna be down the hall to your left.
- Thank you so much. - No problem.
Thank you. We're gonna have a Q&A with the director.
Please stick around as I introduce Daniel Sullivan.
Um...
I don't know. I mean, I like movies that just end.
You know, I never buy it when they're like
tying it all up in a bow at the end, you know?
Yeah, but there has to be some sort of conclusion.
Does there? I don't know. Why? Why can't it just end?
Because as an audience,
there has to be a reason we're watching.
because you're engaged by what's going on
and you're interested in the characters and --
Yeah, but there has to be a journey to follow.
That's not my favorite word "journey,"
but I mean, everything's a journey, isn't it?
I mean, this conversation, for example,
But we have to take something from any piece of art.
But what does that have to do with endings, really?
You can't just stop things happening
But I think you can. That's what an ending is.
then all of a sudden there is a journey,
I think you're taking this the wrong way.
but I felt like I was missing something,
Right, but for me I take that as a compliment
because I think that life is unfinished,
and I think that art and film should reflect that.
I think that, you know, there are structures to a movie
but now even in small independent
and, you know, documentaries like this,
you have to fulfill this preconceived idea
and if you don't hit all these points,
somehow the audience thinks there's something missing
and in that constantly looking for what's missing,
we're not seeing what's there.
And, I mean, for me personally,
it's really in the looking that we are missing.
I mean, that's just sort of my personal thing on endings.
I don't know if that answered your question, but...
It's an interesting discussion anyway.
Um, I think we have time for one more. One more question?
Yeah, I could totally fall in love with the process.
But that was probably I was in love with the film.
- Hi. Thank you for you coming. - Thank you.
Yeah, have a good night.
I, uh...
Yeah, I loved everything about it.
Um, it was great. It was a really great process.
Thank you, guys, so much for coming.
It was nice to meet you all, yeah.
We'll see you later on, okay?
What are you doing here?
I come to this festival every year.
You do not.
Oh, my God. It's so nice to see you.
Hi.
- Congratulations. - Thank you.
I can't believe you're here. It's so wild.
- I loved it so much. - You did?
- Yeah, I was really-- - Are you just saying that?
Yeah. Isn't that what I'm supposed to do?
- No, I really loved it. - You did.
- Yeah, I was so moved. - I'm glad you saw it.
Where were you sitting? I didn't even see you.
I was hiding. I was in the back.
- You hid? - Mm-hmm.
But you have bad vision.
That's true. I didn't have my glasses on.
- Yeah, it's awesome. - Thank you.
And it's impressive that you actually finished it
after all these years.
I mean, well, apparently I didn't finish it,
according to some people.
That guy was such a douchebag.
No, really, there's one at every Q&A,
and they're always some frustrated filmmaker.
There's always one at every Q&A, and you can tell.
Now that I think of it, that's who that guy was.
Yeah, that's who he was.
But I liked what you said.
"It's in that looking that we are missing."
- You liked that one? - Yeah.
I thought it was maybe a little pretentious or--
It was totally pretentious, but he deserved it.
It's so good to see you. You look great.
- I do? - Yeah.
- Do you wanna-- - Oh, yeah, yeah.
You walking out? Let me grab my coat.
I can't believe you're here. It's so crazy.
Where are you staying?
I don't know. Just got into town.
Well, what are you doing right now?
Um... I'm free.
Really? You're free?
- I'm so lucky. - I'm available.
You're available.
Wanna get a cup of coffee?
Yeah, but I have something kind of serious news.
What?
I quit coffee.
Get out of here.
You quit coffee?
Of all the people in the world.
Yeah.
Who are you?